...For Better or Worse
....when I said those words during my wedding a few months ago, little did I know how soon the "worse" would come. It's nothing catastrophic or anything bad, but a gradual erosion of good intentions as the stress of everyday life wears us down.
The wedding, while not exactly the romantic dream I was hoping for, was funny and cute. We spent a considerable amount to make it right and exept for a few glitches, it was a nice and memorable one that people talked long after. However, a wedding and a marriage are two different things.
We mostly have good days but I'm afraid the bad days have started coming in increasing frequency. The strain of my having a career, the stress that comes from a challenging and demanding job and his lack of both (job and challenge) is beginning to wear him down. I'm trying to adjust to his needs, not being too demanding and shouldering all financial responsibilities. I have never thrown the fact that I'm the breadwinner right now, because I really appreciate the fact that he does all the housework I hate to do. But is it too much to ask for some time? To talk a walk at the park or at the mall so I could destress? Does he have to throw the fact that I earn a lot more than him to my face when I suggested we do something during the weekend.
Is it a woman's fault when she has a career and she's more successful than most men? I worked hard to be where I'm at and I grew up knowing there were no limits to what I can do, regardless of my gender. I'm not about to let any man, even if I love him very much, clip my wings. I will fly - and let him catch me. The way to a butterfly's heart is not by capturing it - but letting it fly free. He should know. He taught me in the first place.
The wedding, while not exactly the romantic dream I was hoping for, was funny and cute. We spent a considerable amount to make it right and exept for a few glitches, it was a nice and memorable one that people talked long after. However, a wedding and a marriage are two different things.
We mostly have good days but I'm afraid the bad days have started coming in increasing frequency. The strain of my having a career, the stress that comes from a challenging and demanding job and his lack of both (job and challenge) is beginning to wear him down. I'm trying to adjust to his needs, not being too demanding and shouldering all financial responsibilities. I have never thrown the fact that I'm the breadwinner right now, because I really appreciate the fact that he does all the housework I hate to do. But is it too much to ask for some time? To talk a walk at the park or at the mall so I could destress? Does he have to throw the fact that I earn a lot more than him to my face when I suggested we do something during the weekend.
Is it a woman's fault when she has a career and she's more successful than most men? I worked hard to be where I'm at and I grew up knowing there were no limits to what I can do, regardless of my gender. I'm not about to let any man, even if I love him very much, clip my wings. I will fly - and let him catch me. The way to a butterfly's heart is not by capturing it - but letting it fly free. He should know. He taught me in the first place.
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