Boylet - A Definition
First things first. Let's define both words:
boy - (noun) a male child from birth to puberty
-let - (noun) suffix,small one
Therefore a boylet is a small boy? Not. As some blogs metioned, at first take you's think the same way too. However, the origin of the language came from gay-speak for "fling material", like asking "Saan ba may boylet dito?" A boylet is neither boy nor boyfriend.
A boylet is not a boyfriend with commitment rights and all that the title entails. The boylet does not have a committed relationship to the object of lust (or affection, however you put it). For all intents and purposes, a boylet is a casual fling. He's there for sex. And maybe a friendly ear and occasional (hot) date as well. But it's never an affair of the heart. There are unwritten rules, you know.
Now some people may ask, "a casual fling? But why?". Just because. Sometimes, you just want it without worrying about issues like commitment and maintenance. You just want to do it with someone safe and reasonable expectations. It's not the guy that you had a one-night stand (though, sometimes, that's all they get.)
Sounds like every guy's fantasy, right?
No. Guys have feelings and insecurities too. You never call a boylet a boylet to his face, even if he knows it. I don't even think of them as boylets. They're friends who just happen to be doing it with the girl (or guy, to be gender-fair) when the occasion permits it. In and out of that bedroom (or whatever venue you wish), they remain friends. Or at least as neutral accquaintances. Sadly, an intimate exchange of bodily fluids doesn't always translate to intimate feelings at all.
Which just occured to me.... maybe it's time to write down some rules after all. It might help someone out there.
boy - (noun) a male child from birth to puberty
-let - (noun) suffix,small one
Therefore a boylet is a small boy? Not. As some blogs metioned, at first take you's think the same way too. However, the origin of the language came from gay-speak for "fling material", like asking "Saan ba may boylet dito?" A boylet is neither boy nor boyfriend.
A boylet is not a boyfriend with commitment rights and all that the title entails. The boylet does not have a committed relationship to the object of lust (or affection, however you put it). For all intents and purposes, a boylet is a casual fling. He's there for sex. And maybe a friendly ear and occasional (hot) date as well. But it's never an affair of the heart. There are unwritten rules, you know.
Now some people may ask, "a casual fling? But why?". Just because. Sometimes, you just want it without worrying about issues like commitment and maintenance. You just want to do it with someone safe and reasonable expectations. It's not the guy that you had a one-night stand (though, sometimes, that's all they get.)
Sounds like every guy's fantasy, right?
No. Guys have feelings and insecurities too. You never call a boylet a boylet to his face, even if he knows it. I don't even think of them as boylets. They're friends who just happen to be doing it with the girl (or guy, to be gender-fair) when the occasion permits it. In and out of that bedroom (or whatever venue you wish), they remain friends. Or at least as neutral accquaintances. Sadly, an intimate exchange of bodily fluids doesn't always translate to intimate feelings at all.
Which just occured to me.... maybe it's time to write down some rules after all. It might help someone out there.
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and I have a potential boyfriend ... I wish